In this episode, Andrew Ray talks with Mike Emlet and Julie Lowe about the topic of forgiving parents. The discussion is in response to a listener question: “25 years ago, my dad left my mom, myself, and my three teenage siblings for another woman. He is happily remarried to a widow with six children, and he is a hero to her and her family. They see him as the perfect mate for their mom. We were at a combined holiday family outing (absent my mother), and as my dad was being praised by his new family, I found myself becoming enraged for his family of origin he left as a train wreck. He has never said sorry for leaving, and I have never told him how I feel. My question is, should I share my feelings? I am afraid of him complaining that I don’t want what is best for him, because he has found happiness. I do not feel honest, and I am afraid to be honest.”
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Julie Lowe served at CCEF for over 20 years in various capacities, including as a faculty member and counselor. She is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) and a registered play therapist supervisor and she holds a master of arts in counseling from Biblical Theological Seminary. Julie has extensive training and experience with marriage, women’s issues, sexual abuse, body image issues, parenting, and child maltreatment issues. She is trained in leading mandated reporter trainings and provides numerous trainings and consultations on child sexual abuse. She has published numerous books, including Child Proof (New Growth Press, 2018), Building Bridges (New Growth Press, 2020), and Safeguards (New Growth Press, 2022).
Mike is the Dean of Faculty and a counselor at CCEF, where he has served since 2001. He holds a doctor of medicine from the University of Pennsylvania and a master of divinity from Westminster Theological Seminary. Prior to joining CCEF, Mike worked as a family physician for eleven years. He has particular interests in working with ministry leaders and with those who struggle with anxiety, depression, and OCD. He has published numerous books, including CrossTalk (New Growth Press, 2009), Descriptions and Prescriptions (New Growth Press, 2017), and Saints, Sufferers, and Sinners (New Growth Press, 2021).