Mike EmletWinston Smith

How to love when you feel shy

July 24, 2016

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In this episode, Winston Smith talks with Mike Emlet and Chris Carter about shyness. Their discussion was prompted by a listener’s question: “In social situations I feel painfully shy. Even if I want to try to open up to, and be considerate of others, I can’t help feeling this way, and thus I always feel defensive when I’m interacting with people. I could force myself to speak to others and try to be friendly, but it is forced, and never out of a type of freedom or enjoyment of the other person. How can I love and enjoy people when I constantly feel negatively scrutinized? Are these thoughts and feelings always supposed to be there? What does faith look like in this situation?”

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Mike Emlet

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Mike is a faculty member and counselor at CCEF, where he has served since 2001. He holds a doctor of medicine from the University of Pennsylvania and a master of divinity from Westminster Theological Seminary. Prior to joining CCEF, Mike worked as a family physician for eleven years. He has particular interests in working with ministry leaders and with those who struggle with anxiety, depression, and OCD. He has published numerous books, including CrossTalk (New Growth Press, 2009), Descriptions and Prescriptions (New Growth Press, 2017), and Saints, Sufferers, and Sinners (New Growth Press, 2021).

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