Since this is such a common problem, you can find helpful comments most anywhere. One place is the Biblical Counseling Coalition website and the blogs by Anna Mondal, Love, Limits, and Mending Fences (Part 1 and 2). David Murray’s book Reset: Living a Grace-Paced Life in a Burnout Culture will also be a helpful partner for you.
Ed is a faculty member and counselor at CCEF, where he has served since 1981. He holds a doctor of philosophy in counseling (neuropsychology) from the University of Utah and a master of divinity from Biblical Theological Seminary. Ed is a licensed psychologist and has been active in local church ministry for decades. He has written numerous books, including When People Are Big and God Is Small (P&R Publishing, 1997), Shame Interrupted (New Growth Press, 2012), Side by Side (Crossway, 2015), and Created to Draw Near (Crossway, 2020).