In this audio talk, Jayne Clark argues that the experience of loneliness is shared by many – a wide range of experiences can lead to feelings of loneliness. Though circumstances vary, the experience is similar. The strategies we use to deal with loneliness often have flaws; we want companionship in exchange for being good listeners, serving others, etc. We often treat others like objects, manipulating them to gain a sense of belonging. The question is not what remedies our loneliness, but who remedies our loneliness. Our God does not exist alone but shares fellowship in himself – we are created in that image and fellowship is part of our design.
Loneliness was born at the Fall. Marriage helps develop community but doesn’t solve the issue of loneliness. Loneliness can be eased – consider asking questions about your heart motives for doing what you’re doing: Are there fears I’m afraid of? Do I think too highly of myself than others? Clark points out three ways we can move towards others: 1.) Look at people in order to see them; 2.) Listen well; 3.) Touch (good touch). She ends with an example of how one church developed a community of oneness with Christ and each other.
Key Scriptures: Matthew 28:20; Genesis 2:18; Genesis 12:1-3, 13:16; Psalm 139:23-24; Genesis 16; Luke 7; 1 Timothy 5; John 13:34; Romans 16:16; 1 John 17:20-23