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Family Feuds: How to Respond

Family Feuds: How to Respond

Do you dread family get-togethers and vacations? Do you often regret the way you talk and act around your family? Do you avoid your family? Maybe some of these words sound familiar to you:

“I’m a grown woman, but I act like a child around my family and bicker with everyone.”

“I know it shouldn’t bother me, but my parents always favor my brother over me.”

“My parents still tell me what to do, even though I’m 40 years old!”

“My sister isn’t speaking to me, but she’s sure talking about me.”

“My childhood was so hurtful that I can’t imagine having a relationship with my parents now.”

“My family is out of control. Their behavior is so destructive that I don’t want my children to be around them.”

If you have a hard time relating to your family, you have plenty of company. Many people have a difficult time dealing with the family they grew up in. Why is it so hard to get along with your family? Deep hurts from your childhood, unrealistic expectations, and old patterns resurfacing are just some of the reasons you might find yourself feuding with your family. Is it possible to love in the midst of these challenges? Yes, with God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). Change begins with taking an honest look at your family and yourself, hearing what God has to say about your struggles, and then trusting Jesus to help you love in a difficult situation.