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Walking through marital conflict

September 19, 2016



In this episode, Andrew Ray talks with David Powlison and Julie Lowe about conflict resolution in marriage. Their discussion was prompted by a listener’s question: “My husband and I were in a very heated discussion the other day. He became really upset, and stormed out of the room. Along the way, he slammed doors, kicked a bunch of things, and called me a bad name. We attend church regularly, and we pray together every night. That same night, he said ‘sorry’ but slept in the guest room for a couple of nights afterward. When he came back to bed last night, he placed his hand on my wrist, and asked if I wanted to pray with him. I said yes, but I could only cry. He prayed for us and I cried myself to sleep. We spoke briefly this morning, and I’ve asked the Lord to help me forgive him. Even though he’s trying, there’s still a large part of me that wants to leave him. I feel so abused and violated. I am angry with him, I’m severely disappointed in him, I don’t respect him at all. When he talks and touches me as though nothing is wrong, it makes me even more upset. Besides prayer and counseling, where do I go?”

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David Powlison

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David Powlison served as CCEF’s executive director (2014-2019), a faculty member, and senior editor of the Journal of Biblical Counseling. He held a PhD from the University of Pennsylvania and an MDiv from Westminster Theological Seminary. David wrote extensively on biblical counseling and on the relationship between faith and psychology. His books Seeing with New Eyes and Speaking Truth in Love probe the implications of Scripture for how to understand people and how to counsel. The Biblical Counseling Movement: History and Context explores the background and development of CCEF’s mission. David is survived by his wife Nan, their three children and spouses, and seven grandchildren.

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Julie Lowe

Julie Lowe served at CCEF for over 20 years in various capacities, including as a faculty member and counselor. She is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) and a registered play therapist supervisor and she holds a master of arts in counseling from Biblical Theological Seminary. Julie has extensive training and experience with marriage, women’s issues, sexual abuse, body image issues, parenting, and child maltreatment issues. She is trained in leading mandated reporter trainings and provides numerous trainings and consultations on child sexual abuse. She has published numerous books, including Child Proof (New Growth Press, 2018), Building Bridges (New Growth Press, 2020), and Safeguards (New Growth Press, 2022).

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