Blog Post Oct 02, 2015

The psalms teach us how to cry out to the Lord. When we are reluctant and don’t know what to say, they give us words. These words can speak of painful depths and are sometimes quite bold, almost audacious. At other times, they call us to go slowly, to reflect. One way to do that is to know a particular psalm well enough to adapt and paraphrase it. Then, after we make it our own, we can update it in view of Jesus Christ, the one who animates every psalm.

Here is my attempt with

Blog Post Sep 23, 2015

In a culture of experts and specialists, it is easy to get the idea that only specially-trained people can do the hard stuff. But that's not how the Church works. We're the body of Christ and there are no unnecessary or unimportant parts. We are all called to bring the love of Christ to bear in one another’s lives—pastors, parents, spouses, friends, neighbors, one and all. For some very good reasons, the Lord delights in using the most unlikely members to advance the

Blog Post Sep 11, 2015

At the heart of the romance novel is the thrill of being desired—irresistibly, intoxicatingly desired. And since that genre is the most frequently visited Internet category among women, there is a lot of “desiring to be desired” out there. A lot. Since men’s idolatries get most of the attention, this is a short meditation aimed at bringing fairness to this imbalance.

The Cycle

The desire to be desired fits nicely into the story of evolution. The female

Blog Post Sep 11, 2015

Jill discovered her husband looking at pornography. She feels a deep sense of betrayal. She’s scared, white hot with anger, and deeply confused.  Jill says to me, “Is there any hope for my marriage to survive?” It’s a common question in marital counseling. It’s all too common for those of us who sit with couples whose marriages are shattered.  

I matter-of-factly tell her, “I’ve seen other couples struggle with the same issue and

Blog Post Aug 31, 2015

Let me start at what might seem like an odd place. I believe that life in Jesus expresses an essential humanness that breaks down artificial walls between personal life, social life, and ministry life. I experience life as “chocolate milk”—all stirred together—rather than separated into discrete, alternating categories, “a glass of milk + a candy bar.” 

We see this clearly  in the psalms. They speak from the heart, inviting each of us to

Blog Post Aug 19, 2015

Today Cecelia Bernhardt tells us about her upcoming conference talk at the 2015 National Conference and what she is learning in her counseling. As you read, please pray for her teaching and counseling, and consider supporting a day of ministry. We need $2,300 in donations on any given day to support our work.

Question: You will be speaking at the national conference about how the church can become a place of healing for

Video Aug 18, 2015

Ed sits down and talks about practical steps that an angry person can take.

Blog Post Aug 15, 2015

I occasionally enter swimming competitions in which swimmers are placed in age-groups (20-25, 25-30, 30-35 and so on). The advantage is that the older I get, the less the competition. The problem is that I don’t practice. Instead, I watch a few YouTube videos about start and stroke technique, and I hope to bring that knowledge into my events, as if observing the technique of an Olympian will transform me into one.

The first time I tried this training strategy, a.k.a laziness, I