There are only two correct responses to this question.
- “Why do you ask?” and - “It sounds like things are really hard for you. Please tell me what’s happening.”
We are allowed minor variations on these, but do not say this: “Suicide is not the unpardonable sin. If we think that suicide is immune to the cleansing blood of Christ we have misunderstood the extent of redemption.”
This might be theologically correct; it is pastorally abysmal.
Everyone has to relate to difficult people, and most of us have been difficult people at one time or another. Therefore, every Christian should know how the gospel guides us in these relationships. This course will unpack relevant biblical wisdom and consider the challenging case of those who have been called borderline personality.
It is important to be there at the moment of a crisis, but it is just as important to provide the ongoing care that is so often neglected. This workshop will help you identify situations where this kind of care is required and equip you to provide that care without burning people out
David Powlison & worship leader Bob Kauflin chat about the similar roles of a worship leader and a Christian counselor during a break at the 2009 CCEF National Convention.
Recently CCEF Executive Director Tim Lane and his wife Barbara traveled to Montreal, Canada, to share CCEF's "How People Change" curriculum with over 500 people at SEMBEQ Seminary in that city. SEMBEQ has formed a partnership with CCEF to assist in their mission of training pastors with a zeal for church planting. The seminary intentionally partners with local churches, and much of the seminarians' training takes place "on the job" in those churches.
Tim & Barbara Lane with Francois Turcotte & Francois Picard of SEMBEQ
During their visit, Tim and Barbara sat down with Francois Turcotte & Francois Picard, two of SEMBEQ's leaders, to discuss their unique vision and mission, as well as how CCEF's teaching ministry has become an indispensible part of the training they offer. This podcast is taken from that conversation.
Are you facing a situation in your church that will require pastoral care over a long period of time? If you don’t have a situation like that now – you will in the future. Are you ready for it?
In part 1 of this article, Tim Lane recommended that churches respond to long term pastoral care needs by forming a small group to provide and supervise care. Here in part 2 he continues to describe how that care group should function and suggests a couple books on the subject that you might find helpful.
Guidance For Churches Seeking Outside Help for Counseling
Last week, I laid out four reasons a church should counsel as part of their ministry to their members and as a result, some of you might think that I am implying that a local church should not seek the assistance of “outside” help. Nothing could be further from the truth. Let me nuance my strong commitment for the local church to do counseling with the following qualifications.
Don’t Outsource By Default: There is nothing unbiblical about seeking outside assistance. But just because you feel overwhelmed by a counseling opportunity, don’t immediately think you must outsource your care. When a church immediately out-sources counseling it misses the opportunity to grow both individually and as a community.
Why should a local church and its leaders seek to incorporate counseling within the context of the local church? After all, won’t that distract the church from being truly missional and instead become insular and self-focused? Shouldn’t counseling be left to the professionals who are highly trained to deal with people’s problems? These are all good questions that deserve an answer.