Marriage

Ed Welch  - Blog Post  - Oct 15, 2014

Most marriages have times when one spouse does not like the other, and the dislike is usually mutual—at least my “friends” tell me that is accurate, though I’m confident that even when my wife thinks she doesn’t like me, she secretly—very secretly—likes me. For some of us, these times happen less frequently and we manage them with more skill and grace. For others, mutual dislike is chronic rather than acute, and marital hopelessness becomes the rule.

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David Powlison  - Video  - Apr 11, 2014

David Powlison discusses how to respond to crticism in marriage.

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David Powlison, John Yenchko  - Minibooklet  - Mar 18, 2014

How do you know if you're ready to marry? What are the signs that a man and a woman are heading in the same direction and are right for each other?

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David Powlison  - Video  - Feb 12, 2014

David Powlison sits down and discusses how we can make our marriages better friendships.

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David Powlison, Ed Welch, Mike Emlet, Tim Lane, Winston Smith  - Premium Resource  - May 22, 2013

Coldness, indifference, boredom, and distance create hopelessness in marriage. The world offers tips to "relight the fire"; but the living God, far more deeply, restores a genuine love.

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Ed Welch  - Blog Post  - Apr 08, 2013

Counselors have opportunities to see patterns that emerge among people. Here, I think, is a pattern among men—not all men, but more than you might think. 

“When my wife talks about our relationship—or anything else—and goes on for very long, I want to listen, but I go on overload pretty quick and soon don’t understand a word she is saying.”

Many men have their limits.

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Ed Welch  - Blog Post  - Jan 02, 2013

Excuse me for barging in, but it might be time for more people to intrude into the marital bedroom. Though there are some good Christian books on marital sex, most of them repeat two basic mantras: (1) Christians are not sexually reserved. Behind closed doors we are incredibly frisky and uninhibited, and (2) let your conscience be your guide. If a particular form of sexual expression is acceptable to both spouses, it is okay with God. Let’s not get legalistic in matters where we have freedom of conscience.

I’m not so sure about either of these.

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Ed Welch  - Blog Post  - Jan 01, 2013

Men are wretched at dealing with rejection.

Women are not good at it either. But at least they are more prone to talking about it, or they are vulnerable enough to be sad. Men tend to go silent or get angry.

I want to get to sexual rejection—wives who seem to reject their husband’s sexual advances—but first, a warm-up illustration.

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Ed Welch  - Blog Post  - Dec 30, 2012

What was this intelligent woman thinking?! This guy was so wrong for her! Everyone else could see it! Why couldn’t she?  

It was the first time I was asked to do premarital counseling.  It was also when I awoke to the stupidity of love.

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Jay Adams  - JBC Article  - Oct 25, 2012

A couple seeks to rationalize that their marriage is hopeless. Love begins with giving not feeling, and is primarily the responsibility of the husband to initiate.

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