Pornography is a defining problem of our age, so it is also a defining problem for counselors. The Bible often addresses people enmeshed in wayward sexuality, and Alasdair Groves digs deeply into one significant aspect in the sanctification of pornographied souls.
Pornography is not a "private sin." It infects every area of life, including marriage. To battle pornography effectively, it is important to understand the connections between pornography, relationships, marriage, and the gospel.
An email, intended for one person, was accidentally sent to another. And it happened to be about that other person. The resulting conversation did not go well.
Word gets around. Make an off-hand and critical comment about a co-worker, and that co-worker will hear about it. The whisper-down-the-lane of the elementary school yard is alive and well . . . everywhere.
With electronic memory that seems to have a half-life of centuries, private information doesn’t feel so private. As a result, we must redouble our efforts to safeguard information. Even more, as another example of the way the Kingdom of Heaven cuts against the grain of the world, we must affirm the abiding spiritual reality that we, indeed, live publicly.
An interview with CCEF faculty member Winston Smith originally published at www.9marks.org.
Winston will speak on some of these same topics at CCEF’s National Conference Sex Matters in November. Click here for more information.
9Marks:What is the conventional wisdom for having a healthy, happy marriage among evangelical Christians? Would you differ from the conventional wisdom? How?
Winston Smith: I think that the buzz word for the day—not just for Christians but marriages in general—seems to be compatibility. The idea is to locate your "soul mate" or the person who is most compatible with you.
Can God change those who are addicted to pornography? Yes, God can and does bring people out of their isolated, imaginary world of sexual addiction into the real world of authentic, loving relationships with God and people. David Powlison explains that change happens as people are lovingly challenged to face their behavior honestly, understand its roots, and turn to God for help. True change from God will bring freedom from pornography addiction by transforming the sexual addict’s imagination and behavior.
Can God change those who are addicted to pornography? Yes, God can and does bring people out of their isolated, imaginary world of sexual addiction into the real world of authentic, loving relationships with God and people. David Powlison explains that change happens as people are lovingly challenged to face their behavior honestly, understand its roots, and turn to God for help. True change from God will bring freedom from pornography addiction by transforming the sexual addict’s imagination and behavior.
In this article, Winston shows how seemingly “harmless” sexual fantasies and masturbation negatively impact people and their ability to have healthy relationships with others. He shares how to build a new inner world founded on Christ’s love, instead of imaginary fantasies. Learning these truths will help those who struggle with masturbation and sexual fantasies to grow in their ability to have loving relationships with the real people in their lives.
Winston will speak on this topic in a lecture titled “Solo Sex” at CCEF’s National Conference in November. Click here for more information.
Masturbation, pornography, sexual fantasies...what's so bad about these? No one gets hurt, right? Aren't they better than indulging in actual sexual indecencies with other people? In this podcast, CCEF faculty member Winston Smith addresses the issue of what's sinful (if anything) about these supposedly "victimless" indulgences.
Statistics show that cybersex is a problem within the Christian community, yet churches do not discuss this problem openly. This article reviews popular psychological approaches to cybersex, then offers a biblical response.
A transcription of a half-hour segment of a counseling session with a married couple. Records the "he said, she said," and then adds the counselor's reflections on his own thinking process as he responds to the counselee. This case centers around pornography and lack of intimacy in marriage.
An interview with CCEF faculty member Winston Smith originally published at 
Can God change those who are addicted to pornography? Yes, God can and does bring people out of their isolated, imaginary world of sexual addiction into the real world of authentic, loving relationships with God and people. David Powlison explains that change happens as people are lovingly challenged to face their behavior honestly, understand its roots, and turn to God for help. True change from God will bring freedom from pornography addiction by transforming the sexual addict’s imagination and behavior._1.jpg)