Excuse me for barging in, but it might be time for more people to intrude into the marital bedroom. Though there are some good Christian books on marital sex, most of them repeat two basic mantras: (1) Christians are not sexually reserved. Behind closed doors we are incredibly frisky and uninhibited, and (2) let your conscience be your guide. If a particular form of sexual expression is acceptable to both spouses, it is okay with God. Let’s not get legalistic in matters where we have freedom of conscience.
Women are not good at it either. But at least they are more prone to talking about it, or they are vulnerable enough to be sad. Men tend to go silent or get angry.
I want to get to sexual rejection—wives who seem to reject their husband’s sexual advances—but first, a warm-up illustration.
“If we’re in love, what’s wrong with having sex before marriage? And even if we’re not—isn’t everyone else doing it? Why should we be the only ones who wait?”
Have you ever thought or said things like this? If your answer is yes, you have a lot of company—most people in our world agree with you that, at least in some circumstances, premarital sex is okay. But do you know what God says about this issue?
Dr. Tim Lane and Aaron Sironi lead an hour-long workshop on how church leaders can help members of their congregations through this most difficult and painful of issues.
