Alasdair Groves is the Director of Counseling at CCEF New England and is an adjunct faculty member at CCEF. He received his Master of Divinity in counseling from Westminster Theological Seminary. Alasdair has also served as a pastoral counselor at Westerly Road Church in Princeton, and prior to seminary was a campus minister with the Navigators Christian Fellowship at Dartmouth College. He has a passion to foster genuine relationships in the local church, especially through counseling and counseling training. Alasdair and his wife, Lauren, have two young daughters. Alasdair is a fiction enthusiast, plays ultimate frisbee, and loves to produce and enjoy both good food and good music.
As a biblical counselor, how do you counsel non-Christians? In his public ministry, Jesus simultaneously engaged those who believed and those who did not. In personal conversations he frequently spoke with unbelievers. How do we follow in his footsteps?
Pornography is a defining problem of our age, so it is also a defining problem for counselors. The Bible often addresses people enmeshed in wayward sexuality, and Alasdair Groves digs deeply into one significant aspect in the sanctification of pornographied souls.
On Friday December 14, 26 people, including twenty children, were gunned down in an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut. As we grieve this tragic loss of life, we also feel afraid and wonder how to think about God in all of this.
Should I talk to my spouse about my sexual past? What about current sexual sin? As Christians, we find freedom from guilt and shame as Jesus forgives and cleanses us. But how does that translate into our marriages? It can be difficult to know what to confess to God alone and what to share with our spouses. Questions like “Will it help to tell her something that’s only going to hurt her?” and “Will I ruin our marriage if I tell him about my past and he’s disgusted with me?” abound.
This October at the CCEF Annual Conference I’ll share some reflections on a vexing question: What should you share with your spouse about sexual sin in your life? If you’ve ever confessed sexual sin to your spouse—and probably even if you haven’t—you understand how loaded this issue can be.
Today on Help & Hope, Alasdair Groves and Mike Emlet discuss the value of the emotions of the counselee in the moment of the counseling session for the process of walking with them to heal from past hurts.
In another "In The Counselor's Room," Alasdair Groves and Julie Lowe discuss how to help a child counselee to build relational bridges with their parents.
Life in a fallen world is painful and broken. As Christians endure hardship and suffering, it is common to feel angry at God in our hearts. Our job as counselors is to help people face the reality of the anger they feel, express it, and repent of it so they can move forward. Listen as Alasdair Groves and Cecelia Bernhardt discuss how to come alongside and help those who struggle in this way.
